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March 2018

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From Chaos to Enjoyment

Do you thrive in chaos? Or, do you feel your life is a constant state of chaos?

If you thrive on chaos, you’re tied to the result. It’s the rush from closing a deal, negotiating that big contract, and operating under pressure to get things done. A deadline gives us the necessity to do something in a certain timeframe. We’re willing to take care of it at all costs. It’s exciting. It can be fun. The part that’s missing is that, there is usually no celebration. There’s no demarcation line to say, “Hey, we did it.” We typically rush to the next thing. The next big client. The next big project.

We forget to take it all in, be grateful for the opportunity, and reap the rewards for a job well done. When we lack celebration of the milestones in our lives, at work, and even our relationships, there is no acknowledgement or validation of all the hard work and effort we put into something.

When was the last time you celebrated a big milestone at work? An anniversary with your lover or even a long friendship? When we don’t celebrate, we take for granted everything that has happened.

When we don’t celebrate, we feel that our work and effort goes unrecognized. We then carry this into our next project, or big goal.

Close your eyes. Take a couple deep breaths. Think about everything you have to celebrate today, this week, this month.

It’s time to appreciate you.
It’s time to appreciate who you have become.
It’s time to appreciate all that you have done.
It’s time to appreciate all those who made it happen.
As we end the first quarter of 2018, where have you made great strides? Where can you improve?

By taking time to celebrate your achievements, you enjoy life again. It’s time to share your accomplishments and enjoyment with others.

This week, how can you celebrate and share your many accomplishments with your team, your family, your friends, and those closest to you?

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Courageous Path LLC

Self-Sacrifice vs. Self-Responsibility

Jill deemed herself ultra-responsible. Anyone could count on her. She always stayed late at the office to help out a colleague or finish the project deadline. Jill charged up the success ladder and was rewarded well for her ambitions. All seemed good….

Until she realized, her friends never answered her calls to go out for dinner. She recognized she bailed on the last 10 invites. Jill even skipped holidays with family to crank out the big projects. Over the years, Jill gained excessive weight, her joints hurt, she felt like she was going through early Alzheimer’s even though she was only 40. She looked and felt older than she actually was. She felt lethargic, exhausted, and no longer had the zest for life.

One night late at work, her fingers suddenly felt numb. She got concerned and called 911. Jill was having a mini-stroke. She was lucky to catch it in time and recover from it without severe loss of function. While recuperating in the hospital, Jill realized she always sacrificed her own well-being for that of everyone else.  While she considered herself very responsible, she took zero responsibility for her own life.

Jill began a 90 day campaign called Self-Responsibility. Everyday, she would do something for herself. Some days she strolled through a park. Other days she cooked healthy meals for her network of friends. Jill regained her zest for life and planned her first vacation in years. Jill decided that if she wanted to make an impact on the world, she could only do this if she had more energy and zest in her life. Jill took responsibility for her own life and made it a priority instead of putting it on the back burner.

Self-responsibility leads to greater joy, aliveness, and engagement in life.

Where in your life do you self-sacrifice vs take self-responsibility?

What can you change today to take more self-responsibility?  

What’s on your bucket list? How can you make one item on your bucket list happen in the next 90 days?

 

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Courageous Path LLC

Do You Want More Time In Your Day? 5 Tips to Be More Effective

How effective are you with your time? This is where it truly begins. Effective means doing the right things. It’s not a measure of how much you get done or how busy you are during the day. Let’s take a closer look.

Donald wakes up every morning, immediately checks his phone, answers emails while on the toilet, opens the front door to grab the newspaper, skims the major headlines, then rushes to take a shower, throws a bagel in the toaster, and dashes out the door to work with a bagel in his mouth. Donald’s heart is racing, his mind is scattered, and all he can think about is what else will land in his email inbox when he arrives at work. Donald scampers through his email, then rushes off to a series of meetings. He comes home at the end of the day depleted and exhausted.

Donald took a quick pause. My chest is really tight. I hope something isn’t wrong. My kids, wife, and team depend on me. I can’t keep living like this. How do I change?

As he walks through his front door, he realized he didn’t even get the one email out to his best client that he really needed to send that day. He sat in frustration, ready for a beer and to tune out the day with tv. He fell asleep on the couch.

He didn’t acknowledge his wife in the morning or even wish his kids a good day at school. Donald barely noticed his team working diligently to please him.

Here are 5 questions to ask yourself to be more effective. 

  1. How do you identify your priorities every morning?
  2. How do you schedule your priorities into your calendar?
  3. What habits make you more effective with your time and energy?
  4. Do you know what you are honoring in each decision you make?
  5. How do you celebrate your successes?

 

Donald went through the motions without ever giving thought to what he was actually doing. He went to meetings without ever scheduling time to get his own priorities done.

Robin Sharma says, “Don’t confuse activity with productivity. Many people are simply busy being busy.”

I want you to be effective with your time and your energy. Those around you want to be with a person who is energized, engaged, and enthused not depleted and exhausted.

 

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Courageous Path LLC

The Art of Receiving: Do You Know How?

Most of us work really hard for our relationships, careers, our health, and how we want to impact the world. Yet, sometimes we get really frustrated when things don’t go our way. There is one big thing to consider (especially for women). This is the Art of Receiving. Do you know how to do this?

Jenny always helps everyone else, whether it’s organizing events, helping a friend out, or taking on that extra project at work. She loves helping other people, but she’s starting to feel drained by it all. One day, her best friend Sarah, invited her out to dinner. Jenny didn’t realize it, but it was a surprise party with her best friends. Jenny arrived at the restaurant with a gift for Sarah.

When Jenny walked in, her eyes filled with awe and wonder as her dearest friends gathered to celebrate her recent promotion at work. As Jenny hugged each person, she thought about what she could do for each one in return. How can she give back to that person? Sarah made an announcement to the room and said don’t accept anymore from Jenny. This is her time to receive. Let’s pour into her. Jenny didn’t even know what to do. She didn’t know how to accept love from other people. She sat down, put her hands on her heart and said, I am loved. Jenny looked up with tears in her eyes and whispered, “thank you” to each friend at the party.

While it’s important to not overly take from people, it’s an art to accept and receive from others, whether it’s a small gift, an inviting conversation, or a meal.

What can you do to receive the blessings that the universe is sending your way?

One mantra to say every morning: Why do I give myself permission to receive?

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Courageous Path LLC