Why do we let others who have more or do it better get to us? Within us, we all want to achieve more and do better. It’s a part of being human. Yet, we beat ourselves up in the process. We compare ourselves to others and this damages us. Case in point, I was super stoked to do a hike after some of my health conditions improved. Then, I found out a friend did the same hike in a third of the time. I felt like I just couldn’t do it fast enough. Then, the thought came to me. How did I go from being so excited to pushing myself on a hike to suddenly feel bad about it? What perspective was I not looking at? I started with comparing myself. That turned into a dark rabbit hole of self-doubt and upset my core that I was not performing good enough in the mountains. Yet, I realized this perspective was all wrong. I recognized that first, the only comparison I could do was to my OWN previous performance. And, the hike one was better than my last. Thus, I was on the upswing and proud of it. Second, I thought. What can I do even better to get to the level my friend is at. What steps could I begin implementing to get me there? I used it as a motivation tool instead of a put down self tool. I see this all the time with clients. They compare themselves to a friend that makes more money or takes nicer vacations. Yet, the comparison has nothing to do with them. The ultimate question is,
- Why is this important to you right now?
- Where are you currently?
- Where do you want to be?
- What type steps do you need to take?
- What person do you need to be to take those steps?