February 2019

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This Blocks Your Prosperity

John told Gretchen, “You look beautiful tonight.” Gretchen replied with, “Well, my hair doesn’t look right. I look fat in this dress.” John with a gentle grip on Gretchen’s hands and looking directly into her eyes, said, “You look beautiful tonight.” Gretchen rolled her eyes. How often do you not receive a compliment? Instead you find something wrong about yourself? Or at work: George, an eager Project Assistant, walked over to Bill’s office, “Hey Bill, I see you are working some late hours. My project completed last week, I’ve recuperated and I’d love to give you a hand. The company is at least two weeks out from signing the dotted line on this new project so I’m available.” Bill thought, that would be great, but it’d take me more time to make this happen. Bill stated, “Thanks for the offer but I got it.” Bill drives home at 10pm through torrential thunderstorms, plops on the couch as says “I can’t keep doing this. Things have to change.” Where do you want to be in control and refuse help? The art of receiving is just that, an art. It’s a practice we must all learn. Whether it’s receiving a compliment or an offer for assistance. The longing we crave for is right under our noses yet our blinders keep us from noticing when help is right in front of us. When we block receiving kind gestures from others, we block our prosperity for the future. It is time to open up your heart and receive the love and assistance to move your life, career, and relationships forward. Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day! Lora Polowczuk Chief Energy Officer © Priority Retreats International

This one thing creates opportunities. And, it’s not what you think.

Gerald woke up groggy and irritable every morning. This started impacting all his relationships. He was snippy with colleagues in the office, often saying snide comments. His wife no longer wanted to socialize in the evenings and Gerald took his anger out on her. One by one Gerald’s team started handing in their resignation letters. His supervisor, Vanessa, called him to her office. She stated, What’s going on? Three of your team members have resigned in the past two weeks. You’re sending emails out at 10pm at night. I want you to take a long weekend and seriously think about how to work differently. Gerald was in shock. When he got home, his wife left separation papers on the kitchen table with a note saying her and the kids were taking staying at her parent’s house for the next week. She said they can talk if he can agree he would not raise his voice at her or the kids. Gerald sat into his lounge chair almost paralyzed. How did his whole life unravel in 24 hours? He stood up stern on the edge of the black leather chair and looked around his living room. This all means nothing without the most important people in my life. Tonight, I’m creating an evening ritual to get to bed by 10pm. A full 8 hours of sleep is what I need the most. Over the next week, his body recovered from years of no sleep. He had a deep heart-to-heart conversation with his wife and they continued their marriage. He became a joyful, boisterous, fun-loving husband and boss again. Later in the year, he received a huge unexpected bonus at work. Now, he’s a role model for the rest of the company. He changed one thing: sleeping a solid 8 hours. He wrote on a sticky note on his bathroom mirror, “Turn obstacles into opportunities. A better life awaits you.” Sometimes it’s the least expected activity that can make a world of difference. When you tackle an obstacle and not a problem, the obstacle will never come up again. What obstacles can you turn into your biggest opportunities this week? Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!   Lora Polowczuk Chief Energy Officer © Priority Retreats International

This one thing shows how much you love yourself and others.

David’s chaotic life felt like the nose hairs freezing on an unbearable cold day. Every breath only made it feel worse. Anything made David snap, get angry, and take it out on others.  His project team kept missing deadlines so they were fearful to ask him questions. His wife who also worked long hours was no longer affectionate with him.  He yelled at his kids for not keeping their toys cleaned up. David, in a small voice in his head, ”this has got to stop. I’m no longer myself.” He looked at himself in the hallway mirror.  He said out loud., “The only person that can transform this is me.” After a deep breath and sigh, David pulled out his steno meeting pad and started writing feverishly. Here’s what I will no longer tolerate:
  • A lack of energy
  • A lack of affection
  • A messy household
  • A team that misses deadlines
Then, David wrote: Here’s how I will counter each:
  • I will go for a daily walk at lunch to re-energize and let off steam.
  • I will schedule a date night with my wife every Thursday night.
  • My wife and I will set new rules for the kids.
  • I will be open to support my team so they can hit their deadlines.
He posted this on his bathroom mirror so he could be reminded of it daily. The more you love yourself, the less nonsense you will tolerate. What will you stop tolerating? Be the role model for the behavior you want exhibited around you. Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day! Lora Polowczuk Chief Energy Officer © Priority Retreats International    

Do your nerves get all coiled up and stop you?

An amazing opportunity dropped into my lap like finding the rays of sun on a beautiful spring day. Timelines to prepare for the event didn’t allow for any setbacks. With hawk style mentality, I drew up the critical path milestones and deliverables. First up, designing the full page magazine layout for the event showcasing what my company offers. After deliberate conversations with colleagues, the design was in place. Yet, a vital piece was missing. I needed an intense, close-up picture of me lead climbing outdoors. (Lead climbing is where you put the gear in the rock then climb up with a rope.) I scoured 15 years of climbing pictures and not a single one met the specifications. Yikes, this presented two more problems. First, how do I find a climbing photographer on such short notice?  Second, I hadn’t led outdoor trad climbing in over three years due to significant health issues. I started emailing and calling everyone I knew that was either a climbing photographer or may potentially know one. I was zero for five on day one of outreach. Then, zero for ten on day two of outreach. Sigh…How else can I approach this? My heart got heavy. How do I make this happen? The last attempt found one photographer available. Yippee! Finally! The shoot was on! Then, the nerves set in. My stomach got squeamish and coiled up. It’s my time to get my climbing jam on. Yet, I haven’t placed gear in a few years. Am I rusty? Will I remember what to do? I questioned myself. How strong am I? Can I really hold on to rock and place gear? It’s been soooo long. It’s the dead of winter and I haven’t actually touched rock in over 4 months. Okay, yes, the climbing photoshoot day is suppose to be 60 degrees. But…what if I can’t do it? Then, what? I kept reminding myself. I overcame huge health issues in 2018, I’ve been back in athletic training for almost four months now. “I’ve got this.” I kept saying. I’ve gained a lot of strength and endurance back. Over the next three days, I laid off heavy weight training and concentrated on yoga and one day of indoor climbing, running laps on moderate climbs. The idea was to keep my muscles active but not overstrain them. Friday was the big day. An early rise to double-check everything I need. Climbing gear was sprawled out over my kitchen floor. Helmet. Check. Harness. Check. Climbing shoes. Check. My stomach churned. I’m nervous. Outside the car, the crisp, chilly morning breeze hit my skin. I watched the sun rays slowly make their down the rock route we were going to climb.  I peed twice to get the nervous bug out before we walked to the climbing crag. As we walked to the base, I repeated, you’ve been preparing this for three months, “You’ve got this. You’ll be fine.” As I put on all my climbing gear and stripped off my extra clothing layers, I was a little tense. I started climbing and placed the first piece of gear with ease. Each step got easier and easier. I haven’t felt this good climbing on rock in a few years. I flew up the 100 feet plus climb as it was nothing. The pictures turned out fabulous. It couldn’t have been a more beautiful 60 degree day in the middle of winter. Where do you psych yourself out before even starting? Do you trust your preparations and ability to figure it out? It’s time to recognize that you’ve done the work. You’re prepared for the opportunity. It’s time to go out and claim what you’ve worked so hard for. Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day! Lora Polowczuk Chief Energy Officer © Priority Retreats International