October 2019

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You need a mental diet

Most people think of diet in terms of physical. What type of food are you eating? How often are you exercising? In the end, diet is about a lifestyle, which has multiple components. The biggest aspect is missing.

Shelly’s alarm woke her up every morning to the top five world news stories for the day. She felt as if she stayed on top of world events. While she always had a good night’s sleep, she never figured out what made her anxious every morning.

As her morning continued, Shelly checked her iPhone scanning through text messages, social media messages, and then her dreaded work email inbox. By the time she ate breakfast, Shelly felt as if she’d been hit by a ton of bricks.

What Shelly didn’t know was that her body was in a constant state of flight-or flight. Cortisol and adrenaline, the biochemical components of flight or flight, keep her amped up. She could barely sit at work. She eagerly paced in her office and while on client calls.

Shelly started wondering what was going on. Her once rock star sleeping faded as if clouds rolled in on a moonlight evening. Soon, the downward spiral equated to a snowball that picks up more snowflakes as it slides down a big hill. Her life and career collapsed as if a wrecking ball hit her.

Shelly took one hard look at her behaviors and what could be changed. What she consumed mentally was making her a nervous wreck.​​​​​​​

Instead of news feeds and electronic checking, she decided to do something new. She would not turn on a single electronic for the first hour of the day.

–  No news: Shelly decided to check the news late afternoon.

  –  No electronics: This allowed Shelly to stay on top of her day. She focused on her own priorities for the day. Checking emails only gets you suckered into other people’s agendas.

​​​​​​​​​​​  –  Eat mindfully: She ate breakfast without anything else. Shelly then chewed her food more instead of swallowing food whole. Suddenly, Shelly could eat less and feel more full.

Consuming news, social media, and even youtube videos is what your mind eats. Are you filling your mind with good nourishment or someone else’s agenda? 

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Priority Retreats International

The 2 D’s of Disappointment

Anytime a new task came across Tim’s desk, he buried himself on the internet to figure out how to do it. After all, Tim prided himself that he could always figure something new out. Yet simultaneously he would spend five minutes researching then succumb to the “browser effect”. This is when you have some many browser windows open that you’re not even sure where you started.

Then you realize that you’ve wasted two hours getting nothing done. Admit it, at some point, you can relate to this. In the end, this only became a distraction – “D” #1.

Soon, Tim begins to wonder if he can handle the big project meeting coming up. His stomach turns into knots. He’s binging on junk food to make it through the day. He starts to doubt (“D” – #2) his ability to get anything done in a timely manner.

The big client day arrives. Tim walks in a sweaty mess from anxiety on whether he’s prepared enough. The one hour meeting continues for almost three hours hammering outside the different sides of the contract negotiation. Both teams are ravished hungry. Tim thinks all went well.

The next day Tim’s boss calls him into his office. With a calming voice, this boss, Gerald says what’s going on? The client said you spoke gibberish for almost three hours. This was a million dollar contract. We are going to let you go. Tim’s disappointment sets in.

When distraction and doubt combine, it may lead to disappointing outcomes.

To stop this in its tracks, acknowledge when you feel doubtful, don’t be afraid to ask questions or ask for help. When you catch yourself in distraction mode, ask yourself, what’s my priority right now? Then refocus your attention. At some point, we’ve all had doubt or have been distracted, acknowledge what’s happening and redirect your attention. 

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Priority Retreats International

Your role in a toxic work environment

Mark Cuban, Dallas Mavericks owner and SharkTank extraordinaire, was hit with devastating news.

The normal straightforward, cut to the bottom-line type of guy experienced his own medicine. Sports Illustrated exposed his team’s “corrosive workplace culture” over a twenty-year span in an article earlier this year.

Yet, here’s what most people are missing in the discussion.

Workplace environment is more than how you treat the other gender or how diversified your workforce is. That’s what the surface level discussion is. This is what’s really going on.

First, people project their subconscious inadequacy on to others. This shows up in a variety of ways.  

A leader is afraid a team member won’t bring the project in on time and thus won’t delegate tasks. The leader does not want to be perceived as having a team that failed at something. This shows employees they are undervalued.

  • When a problem comes up on a project, a leader tells the team what to do instead of allowing the team members to identify and co-create potential solutions. This creates limited visions for problem-solving.
  •  A team-lead yells at a team member for no reason. The team-lead is actually having personal issues at home and takes it out on someone else. Being on the receiving end of someone else’s anger does little for office morale.

 Second, most people tolerate mistreatment.

  • Most people put up with being treated unfairly. Employees fail to teach others how they want to be treated. When this occurs, a leader never even realizes something bad has happened.
  • Employees are more willing to share common issues with fellow employees yet fail to let management know there is an issue. A leader cannot change what they are unaware of. 

Toxic environments come in many forms. We all have work to do here. It’s time to take a deep dive.

 1)      What are you projecting onto other people, at work or at home?

 2)      What behavior do you tolerate? 

Toxic environments come in multiple forms; those who create and those who tolerate it. 

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Priority Retreats International