November 2019

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The one thing you forget to be thankful for

How many of you are thankful for the unpleasant moments in your life? Harriet yelled at John in front of twenty members of the executive team. The room fell silent witnessing this spectacular outburst from a C-Suite Executive. The silence was so strong you could hear a phone vibrate with notifications John’s face swelled with hues of pink while he attempted to maintain composure from the verbal attack. It took every ounce of strength to not get angry back at Harriet. In his mind, he thought, one day this will be a pivotal moment in my life. He took his seat waiting for the rest of the meeting to end. Later that day, John started listing everything he had done for the company. And, better yet, what suggestions he made that Harriet never agreed to. That day, became the day he would start his own company with the culture he wanted to instill and challenge staff to a new level. John took anger and transformed it into a meaningful step forward. That Thanksgiving, he gave thanks for a horrible and humiliating experience. This allowed him to truly propel forward to where he wanted to go. The next steps were uncertain. His heart was strong. His passion was big. This Thanksgiving: Be thankful for the bad experiences for this taught you what not to do. Be thankful for the unpleasant people for they teach you how to show up in the world. Be thankful for the body injury for it taught you to appreciate life. Be thankful for the burnout, it taught you why self-care is important. Be thankful for the failed projects, it taught you movement is more important than doing nothing. Be thankful for the unfriendly relationship, it taught you how to communicate. Be thankful for the embarrassing situation, it taught you how to laugh at yourself.
And, most of all, remember this, “Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy Fail fast. Fail often. Integrate. Be thankful you made a move, even if the outcome wasn’t what you wanted.  May you receive abundant blessings this Thanksgiving! Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day! Lora Polowczuk Chief Energy Officer © Priority Retreats International

This causes pain

Chad excited for his promotion got to work early. His role of Director came with the pay raise and corner office he always desired. The extra money would allow for house upgrades his wife had been wanting for years. With enthusiasm setting the tone, Chad couldn’t wait to hold his first staff meeting and propose a vision for his department. One by one, his department colleagues came into work. Each brought a slight curious anticipation about what changes the new leader may make. Within thirty minutes of his last departmental colleague’s arrival, Chad’s stomach began to churn. He was reluctant to organize a meeting. He began to question whether his new direction would be right. Would his team fully embrace the direction shift he wanted to propose and implement. Given his emotional status, Chad thought it would be better tomorrow once everyone’s emotions settled down. Day by day, he kept putting the meeting off. Then, a week went by. Then, a month. Suddenly he was called into the Vice President’s office. The Vice President asked what the issue was in implementing the changes. Chad could barely look the VP in the eye. His words turned into a mumble on why he hesitated to implement. With anxiety worsening, Chad called in sick the next day. Hesitation causes pain. What’s one small step you can take today? Make a courageous choice and take that step today. Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day! Lora Polowczuk Chief Energy Officer © Priority Retreats International

Take responsibility

As we tap into the final months of 2019, you must remember one key thing. You co-create your own reality. Allison loved helping her child. It made her warm and fuzzy on the inside. Yet, her daughter, Tulip, always waited until the last minute to write her papers for school. And, Allison, was always right there to review and read it at 1am or sometimes later at night. Life started to change. Allison started taking on new responsibilities at work. Her excitement to utilize her talents and apply them in new ways brought immense joy to her. After years of being underutilized, she was finally seeing her career and skills take off. Alison exuberant with glee couldn’t wait to get to work every morning. She imagined buying her first home once she received a promotion. Then, as a classic teenager, Tulip, said “hey Mom, tonight I’m working on my final paper for the semester. Will you help me with it?” This time, Allison, said, “No, I’m not staying up late to review this. You’ve had two weeks to complete this and I’m no longer your scapegoat.” Tulip stood there in shock, almost horrified. Allison, said, it’s time you take responsibility to get your work done in a timely manner. I’m happy to help. Staying up late affects my own performance at work the next day and tomorrow is the culmination of a nine month project at work with a big client. From that day forward, Tulip realized a valuable lesson. It was up to her to get her own projects done on time. Alison created her own reality to teach responsibility to her child while maintaining her own responsibility to herself. The choices you make dictate your reality. Set boundaries and create the reality you want for yourself and others. Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day! Lora Polowczuk Chief Energy Officer © Priority Retreats International

The Berlin Wall deconstructed 30 years ago. Your walls need the same.

Throughout our lives, we all get hurt in some way. People disappoint us. Bosses fail us. Family doesn’t get us. Relationships fall apart. Circumstances arise that we never thought would ever happen to us. But, it happened. We can’t go back and change what’s already occurred. As a result, we put up walls. We think these walls protect us. They keep us safe. Or, so we think. After World War II, the Berlin Wall was constructed to keep two different political sides apart. Yet, over time, people felt stuck. They wanted to freely move from one side of Germany to the other. It wasn’t safer to be on one side. Most of all, it took decades to realize that. It wasn’t until when people could travel freely that their economy soared. November marks the 30th anniversary of the final deconstruction of the Berlin Wall. Deconstructing the wall took a few years. How does this relate to you? When you open up your heart again, it takes time for the barriers to fall down. What are you willing to deconstruct and let go of so that you live the life you want? Too often, when coaching clients, I can metaphorically see a metal shield around their heart. The wall of protection is so great that they shield themselves from the good as much as they do the bad. When this happens, people do not let in all they good they really want. Where in your life do you want the freedom to move freely again? The hardest part about all this. Its not only about letting down the walls, its about willing to receive the good as well. Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day! Lora Polowczuk Chief Energy Officer © Priority Retreats International