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How fast are your decisions?

Martha sits out on the porch on a hot summer day drinking a refreshing lemonade. While normally, she takes the early evening to relax while the temperatures cool, something was different. The skies usually crystal clear had an interesting haze. Then, Martha realized the usually crisp air felt like someone was stepping on her chest.

Martha stood up quick, wondering what was going on. Before she turned to walk inside, a loud piercing knock came from the front door. An officer cut straight to the chase, didn’t even say hello.

Ma’am. There’s a fast raging fire four miles from here. With the winds changing directions, your house is likely to be a direct hit. Leave in the next thirty minutes.

Martha stood shell-shocked. Thank you, officer.

She took a deep breath and let out a sigh.

Martha, asked herself out loud, What’s the most important items?

Legal documents.

Family pictures.

Extra gasoline, that was for her lawn mower

Non-perishable food.

2 pairs of clothes and comfortable shoes

A sleeping bag.

Her computer and charger

Her dog, Mocha.

In 10 minutes everything was packed and she left her house. Martha had no clue if she would ever return.

Too many of us get emotionally hijacked in chaos and get stuck. How do you stay calm and think clearly?  

Everyday, we are bombarded with new information seeking our attention. If you know your intention and what’s most important, decisions are easy to make.

In the midst of chaos (and change), do you know what’s the most important thing to focus on?

There is a clear choice. Be decisive. 

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Priority Retreats International

Want more control? Do this. 

Bill ran his team like clock work. At the weekly team meeting, he asked each team member to give a status update. Bill then promptly told the team member exactly how to fix the issue. Over the course of the year, Bill’s team became resentful. The team frequently talked about Bill’s controlling style, which made them feel inferior and unable to propose innovative solutions that were superior to Bill’s ideas.

Overtime, Bill’s team began to find new jobs. In one month over half his team resigned. Bill complexed to what was happening, ask one of his team members if they had any insight. The young guy, unable to look Bill directly in the eyes, said softly “You tell us what to do.” Our team isn’t allowed to make suggestions or propose new ideas. It is not a fun place to work when we get our own creative mojo on. Bill thanked the young guy for his honesty.

Bill sighed. He went home that night. Unable to sleep, he began to think about how he can go about this differently. The next morning, Bill was called into the CEO’s office. The CEO stated that another member of his team resigned. Calmly, the CEO asked, what’s going on? Bill, with a somber reserve, stated how he was telling people what to do instead of letting his team self-correct and work with each other to troubleshoot project issues.

To move anything forward, control only works on yourself. To be effective, collaborate with others. 

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Priority Retreats International

Triumph over Tragedy. 30 years later

How you choose to handle adversity says a lot about you.

At some moment, many of us realize that life is short, not in years but in the opportunity to explore the infinite. This reflection reigns true as last week marked the 30th anniversary of my father’s death. As a little girl without coping mechanisms, the tragedy threw me into a state of depression and withdrawal from life. Life spiraled downwards. It wasn’t until ten years later, senior year of college, that a light bulb turned on. From that point on, living life to the fullest became reality. I chose where I wanted to go. I decided not to pursue a PhD. I chose to explore Europe by train with only a backpack for a month after graduation. That one experience in itself set the stage to travel internationally with ease for the rest of my life.

At that pivotal moment, I chose to live a different way. Instead of taking pity on myself, I realized that life is short. I began traveling the world to explore what else was out there. Learning about other cultures provided perspective that few see.

My father’s death while tragic led me to become independent and go after opportunities far beyond my reach. The lessons learned in adversity is what makes you grow as a human being.

In any situation, we have the choice to let tragedy bring us down or to rise up into something new.

Let adversity be a guiding path on your next steps.

What will you choose today?

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Priority Retreats International

How long do you wait?

Ever dealt with a problem so long it became part of your everyday?​​​​​​​
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Jack wakes up every morning with neck pain and achy hips. This has been going on for well over a decade. One morning, the pain was so bad that it caused a migraine headache rendering him unable to work or function as an adult that day. His latest chiropractor adjustment lasted less than 24 hours. Jack screamed to the world, “Enough is enough. I’m sick of this.”
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​​​​​​​Jack looked into some new body work treatments. That night barely able to drive, he walked into a mattress store and tested several mattresses. He has wanted a new mattress for well over 3 years but never got around to it.
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​​​​​​​The following week after trying a new body work modality and sleeping on a new mattress, Jack felt rejuvenated and refreshed. He learned to not wait to explore something new.

How long do you wait before you test a different approach? Hours? Days? Months? Years? The speed of your decisions reflect your willingness to change your path.

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Priority Retreats International

How to deal with dread.

When you wake up in the morning, does your mind chatter automatically turn into how much you dread the day’s events or activities?
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Instead, think about what’s going to excite you today.
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Maybe it’s getting your creative juices going with a new project? Perhaps it’s meeting with a new client, perhaps you’re attending a fundraiser for your favorite charity, or maybe you’re taking a walk with your favorite pal, or, maybe it’s cheering on your child at a sporting event.
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Wow! The magical ah-ha moment.
Choose your attitude. This seems so simple yet how often do we practice this. What is often common sense is rarely common practice. An attitude of dread sets you into a down ward spiral.  Here’s why to shift into a different mindset:
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Let’s think about this for a minute.

What attitude will you choose for the day?

You may wonder, why does this matter?

​​​​​​What’s the impact of choosing my attitude?
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It’s about the energy you bring into the situation or activity. If you’re excited about something, you bring a sense of awe, amazement, wonder, and uplifting energy. You’re present in the here and now. If you’re dreading it, you bring a sense of low energy, don’t care, lack of engagement.

The true question is, what type of energy do you want to bring to a conversation, your work environment, your partner, your friends? With excitement, the energy feels inviting and engaging, while dread comes across as stand-off.  Which would you rather be around? Excitement of course!

Think about it. Even house cleaning can made fun with some music and dance. I’ve definitely been known shake my hips while mopping the floor. What can you do to bring fun into the mundane activities?

How can changing your attitude change the energy of those around you?
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Want to know more about up-leveling your energy or need help with this? Allow me to assist you in identifying ways to create an excitement filled, fun loving, bouncing for joy type of day!
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You can do it! I believe in you. 

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!
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Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Priority Retreats International

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The trilogy of need, want, and this.

Throughout personal development, most people are taught to go after their wants, their deepest desires.

 Personal development teaches people to go after their wants and desires. Even the famous Napoleon Hill, gives the 6 Steps to Turn Desire into Reality. Yet, here’s how this differs.

 Jill’s biggest want was to get her health back. She’d spent over a year slowly restoring her body. In recent weeks, she felt fabulous, re-energized and ready to take on the world. Jill started testing her capabilities in the mountains were she felt serenity yet challenged herself in new ways. But, soon, Jill overdid it. Her neck and shoulder pain became unbearable giving rise to debilitating headaches. In turn, this kept her from focusing on intently on work tasks, missing commitment, and leaving her home a complete wreck, with dirty dishes and clothes everywhere. Jill took a few days off of physical activity with the hope to hike again the following weekend.

 As the weekend approached, Jill wanted to go hiking, even if it was a short distance. Yet, her body needed rest. Jill slept ten hours Friday night, giving her body the rest it truly craved. Gripping with disappointment, she accepted the reality that a walk along the creek would work for physical movement. Jill delighted in seeing the bright pink milk thistle bloom, listening to the creek flowing with power from recent snow melt, and moving at a gentle welcoming pace to allow circulation throughout her body. This was exactly what she needed.

 In the end, Jill accepted the reality that her body required rest and not over exertion. In turn, this allowed her to identify that her needs were met over her want to do more in the mountains.

 Accepting reality dictates whether you follow your needs versus your wants. 

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk

Chief Energy Officer

© Priority Retreats International

The interconnection between choice and freedom.

With the smell of Independence Day in the air, most people think about whether they have or don’t have freedom in their lives. Yet, most don’t realize that freedom is a choice. It’s not something anyone, any government gives you. And, most of all it’s up to you to execute your freedom daily.

While visiting Robbins Island in South Africa where Nelson Mandela and others where imprisoned for decades, gave true perspective in how they chose to thrive not just survive. If you’ve never been, former prisoners, give you the tour. There’s an awe in how they speak about their experiences. It was a somber reminder that even through torture, prisoners chose the attitude for their day and how they treated each other. After all, he led a country after 27 years in prison.

Don’t be a prisoner to your past. 

Don’t be a prisoner to other’s thoughts, opinions, or actions. 

Don’t be a prisoner to distractions.

Despite what you are going through today, remember this:

  • You have the freedom to choose how you show up daily.
  • You have the freedom to choose if you react to a situation or respond.  
  • You have the freedom to contact a loved one even if you have an intense workday.
  • You have the freedom to utilize your time on meaningful activities or distractions.

The list goes on. 

Choose wisely. This is the best way to express your freedom and give yourself power daily.

It’s up to you whether or not you exercise this power. 

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk

Chief Energy Officer

© Priority Retreats International

 

Photo by Eric Froehling

A drug dealer is more effective than you, here’s why.

Ever get overwhelmed with how much is on your plate? We all have at some point in time. Here’s what we can learn from a drug dealer.
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A drug dealer knows one thing – their objective. And, it’s one objective not ten. The key to resolving this is to slim down your objective list – your to do list – your gotta do everything list.
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On December 31st, 2019, what would it feel like if you accomplished that one objective you set out for? 

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Here’s what drug dealers do better than you. They recognize exactly what they need to do that day. They know their numbers to hit. Conversations to make. They calculate exactly how many sells to make. They know who their customers are and don’t waste their time with people who don’t serve their business (or for you – your career and relationships.)

They stay off social media. What a concept!
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I’m not advocating for you to do anything illegal. Definitely do not do anything illegal. 

The truth is a drug dealer is more effective with their time, their relationships, and how to reach their ultimate objective. They stay focused. They know exactly what’s working and what’s not. Take this week and reflect on the first half of the year, what went well and what didn’t.
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What’s your one objective you want to reach by December 31st? There’s a little over 6 months to make this happen.
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You can do it! I believe in you. Need help with this? Reply to this email. 

​​​​​​​Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

​​​​​​​Lora Polowczuk
​​​​​​​Chief Energy Officer
​​​​​​​© Priority Retreats International

Does Your Job Own You?

The Pew Research Center stated that 62% of fathers and 54% of mothers spend too little time with their kids due to work obligations. Whether or not you have kids, this is a staggering statistic. Even if you’re single, it means your job likely owns you and that you likely spend more time at work then, with people you love or doing something you love.

If this applies to you, keep reading.

What to do about this?

First, what do you consider an obligation? I mean really. Is checking your social media while working an obligation? I’m being serious here. It’s probably not.  

Here’s what’s likely happening…

How you schedule your day is likely not aligned with your priorities. If I opened your calendar, right now, can I notice exactly what your priorities are? I’m serious. Did you schedule in that extra time you checked the news for no reason?

So, what are your top three priorities for today? This includes all aspects, work, friends/family relationships, health, etc. If kids are a top priority, do you pencil in where in your day that you’re spending time and contributing to their growth? Or, if it’s your health, scheduling in your gym time? If it’s a priority, that also means you can’t delete it.

The real question is, do you schedule your priorities?

First things, first. Schedule your top priorities. Stick to them. Don’t allow anything else to supersede them.

It’s not about your job obligations. It’s about you owning your time and priorities.

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk

Chief Energy Officer

© Priority Retreats International

The 2F Factor Contrast

Imagine rafting down the infamous Horseshoe River in the Grand Canyon.  You come up to the famous u-shaped section. The river magically disappears through darkening shades of red and orange. With a sense of anticipation, you wonder what is around the next bend. Will there be large rapids to navigate? How do you best prepare for the unknown?

Every aspect of your life, career, and even relationships are similar.

Water is malleable and bounces around the harsh corners of a river. It cuts deep into the banks and carves out a wider dimension. The water simply flows against gravity.

The funny thing is this. Sometimes, we over paddle trying to force certain things to happen or sometimes we get lazy thinking things will change on its own.

Have you ever tried to get somewhere faster and nothing seemed to work? The more we force something, the more exhaustion ensues. Or, we think circumstances will change all on their own.

A quick assessment for you:

1)      Where are you over paddling and forcing something to happen?

2)      Where do you need to look up from the daily grind and enjoy the beauty that surrounds you?

3)      Where do you need to slow down and enjoy the flow of what’s going on? Taking each new step with a gentle ease and grace.

This is the Force or Flow Factor. The water in your world has the same current. Where’s your sweet spot?

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk

Chief Energy Officer

© Priority Retreats International